tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4302058077294515606.post7836021003585983750..comments2023-05-21T08:15:38.932-04:00Comments on Benjamin Peck's Writings, 2008-2011: UNCONDITIONAL LOVE IS A PRECIOUS COMMODITY--AND PSYCHIATRISTS SELL ITBenjamin Peckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11060411573921973698noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4302058077294515606.post-40369243144936800132009-09-22T13:41:59.271-04:002009-09-22T13:41:59.271-04:00I knew my parents did not love me unconditionally ...I knew my parents did not love me unconditionally when they started making me go to school. <br />The closest thing to unconditional love I will ever receive comes from my dog.Timoteohttp://timmysnoodle.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4302058077294515606.post-54437249921056783552009-09-22T08:30:08.216-04:002009-09-22T08:30:08.216-04:00Hey!
Reciprocation is what most people search for...Hey!<br /><br />Reciprocation is what most people search for in relationships. Wisdom, courage, and compassion help to love, plus the person giving cannot have a large void they expect to be filled or they'll be needy. If we have expectations and demands that is not unconditional love. Can we ever expect anyone to love us no matter what we do? It's an unreasonable, childish demand. It worked when we were a baby, but not now.<br /><br />Mature unconditional love doesn't exist. I think it's a wonderful thing that when I give to someone and they feel good, I feel good! This is a higher form of selfishness, but still selfish none-the-less. It's win-win. It's better than win-lose behavior when I make someone else feel bad so I feel good.<br /><br />On a deeper level, if we cultivate understanding that the other person, at their core, is in their essence the same as we are, we will feel compassion towards them. This may be as close as we can get to unconditional love.<br /><br />Unconditional love is what people search for in life, trying to recapture that feeling of rapture which the baby felt it had. That is a feeling of absolute security and acceptance, which cannot be found again. <br /><br />If the mother gives up the child, the child dies, that was the situation on which unconditional love was first imprinted upon us. No matter what the child did, the mother was there. Adults cannot be expected to act that way to each other. After a time if the inequity is too strong, one side will stop the exchange, unless they are a masochist, in which case it's still win-win.<br /><br />MattAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com